I like to think of myself as someone who is actively trying to minimize my pet peeves. Be more Zen. More duck like.
But I get annoyed when people write books about money that have never had money issues. Some of my favorite books about money (or anything, really) are when people go deep. Uncover the monsters under the bed, haul them out, and talk about them.
I don’t know about you, but I’ve got a successful business, an MBA, all my bills are currently paid and I still have money monsters that I am actively hauling out from under my bed. I still struggle with the pain and failure of losing my family land. When I drive the freeway in my hometown, I avert my gaze so I don’t look at the mountain where four generations of my family lived. I know it’s there. But I don’t look. I can’t. If I look, I feel tears burning in my eyes. It’s not that I don’t want to cry. I have cried plenty of tears over that whole mess. It’s that I still can’t believe it hurts so much. That I could have loved something so much, tried so hard, and prayed for miracles that never came.
Maybe you’ve got your own version of this.
I’m a reader, a librocubicularist actually, and I like to work through my emotions with books. Sometimes, it’s disappearing into Harry Potter or Outlander.
But today I want to share with you two books and two people whose work has helped me take baby steps that turned into bigger building blocks that I have put my life back together with. I am not an affiliate for either one, so this isn’t one of those high pressure join their course so I can get my 50% email.
These are just two people whose work I love and have helped me work through some of my demons.
Amanda Steinberg and Worth It
First, Amanda Steinberg has a new book out called Worth It. Those of you that found me from Daily Worth might recognize her name. Amanda is the founder of Daily Worth, and of WorthFM, a new brokerage for low fee investments made for women, by women. Worth It part money memoir, part self-help, and part practical guide in Amanda’s usual smart, compassionate but no bull style.
One of my favorite things I learned from Amanda is that budgets are useless, and what to do instead. I learned it at a small group workshop she was giving in 2013, and I still use it to this day. She is on a mission to empower women around money. She also gave me the platform to write about losing my family land and credit repair, when most publications shy away from the world of credit repair.
Why I think you’ll like it:
- Uncover your money story you inherited, and how to change it to one you want
- You don’t need to know everything about investing, but here is what you do need to know in easy to understand bite size chunks
- Budgets: For the birds
- How to launch something and make it profitable (Amanda has raised hundreds of millions in capital. This isn’t some pie in the sky advice)
Amanda’s got a free, no pitch Worth It Book Club on Facebook so we can do the emotional work together.
Bari Tessler and The Art of Money
I love Bari’s description of herself so I won’t try to improve upon. Financial Therapist, and Mamapreneur. Bari is an actual therapist, and I have gone deeper in her book than I have with my last therapist.
Bari’s book Art of Money is three parts. The first, Money Healing. I don’t want to spoil the book for you, but when I did these exercises, I cried. When I got to the second part, Money Practices, I used the crying for fuel to put in practices with my money that serve me. I felt lighter. More in charge. Part three is Money Maps, and it’s all about creating your future, two things that are intricately tied. I love how Bari brings such a tender voice to these topics, and I look at my Money Map every week.
Bari also has a year-long money school called The Art of Money that I am in as a participant and going to be guest teaching in. It’s only open for a few more days (sorry I didn’t give you a heads up sooner, but I’ve had the crud). Again, I am not an affiliate ( I don’t get a commission if you join), but I knew as soon as I read The Art of Money that I wanted to be in her year-long program and that’s why I am sharing it with you.
If you want a slow, deep drive over the course of a year in both the emotional and practical, this is for you. I know that reasonably priced means different things to different people, but I was pleasantly surprised when I saw the monthly cost.
Here’s to hauling the monsters out from under the bed.